Very glad you made it through the cooking all in one piece, Preston1990. I've heard of living dangerously, but not in conjunction with vegetables.
My best friends have seen me at my thinnest and my fattest, and they have always gone for positive reinforcement, i.e. talking about my weight only when I've lost it and look good.

I'm never going to be skinny, but the top end of healthy is where I feel most comfortable, so I'm heading for that. Diane65, I'm surprised you've had such negative comments from someone you've known a long time (if she is right and you're half the size you think you are, I'm sure the Manchester crew would have staged an intervention, so if you say you need to lose some more, I believe you). I don't suppose you've been at your biggest for the majority of time she's known you, and it's change that is unsettling her, rather than intending to be hurtful? People are funny creatures.
I don't track calories spent traipsing around the shops, but I always end up knackered baty, so I'm sure you do burn more than you think. Any kind of movement is better than none - even just fidgeting is better than lying down watching tv!
I have avoided the JL cake and coffee vouchers thus far but I do not blame you one bit for treating yourself, ejwrank. A little of what you fancy does you good.
